What happens after a childhood filled with abuse, violence, pain and suffering? - They become
As you wake up in your morning - someone out there is waking up in another reality.
They wake up in discomfort,
stilling having their abusive parents alive, or they are experiencing past memories over and over again, or
they are awaiting other people to hurt them as well - so other people do, and you might be one of them.
These are the people I try to see - maybe you see them as well?
When I walk outside I know you are out there. You who carry deep suffering.
You will for always be different,
but there is nothing wrong with you even if it feels that way.
When people grow up being abused they loose their own sense of value - they loose the sense of who they
Baby - you never loose completely the ESSENCE OF YOU.
You still have yet so much to become.
People act strange. We all are STRANGE and that’s a matter of fact. We all have our habits, our disbeliefs and beliefs about our lives and others.
We all have sunshine waiting inside of us all - just waiting to burst out of us… for some people, it takes their whole life.
Never belive your life is for granted
Never belive another life is less worthy
of living a deserving and fulfilling life!
People walk around with a lot of pain going on inside. Thinking and feeling they are no good.
They have been told the same for so
long that they actually belive in it.
I want to highlight what their lives could be like… NOW.
As they were young children people may have noticed something were wrong.
You may have been their neighbor once.
Maybe you did call the cop when their mum or father
was making too much noise?
Maybe you never heard the silent cries from inside behind the walls… as soft music were played to disguise
what was really going one.
People who abuse get so good at hiding what’s going on
that other people say things to their children like this:
`I don’t understand how they can have so mischievous children`
`No wonder they were angry when their child acted that way at the store
- I`ve never seen anything like that`
So… the child ( who might were you) get`s more conflicted inside.
Yes, the child may misbehave - but who can blame a child
who only comes from a loving space when born, then they
are being told they are worthless… being abused
and told that `You had this coming`
EVERYTHING they do becomes WRONG
in the eye of the abuser - and sadly
so very often in other peoples eyes
when the child starts to misbehave
- that is really the `symptom` of something being wrong in
their home environment.
Or maybe the child got help?
Some children are being taken away from their parents - think of
what harm this can cause a child.
child get`s placed into a better home?
The child still have to deal with missing their parents.
Either way, taken away or not
BEING ABLE TO FORGIVE
is one of the hardest thing for a human to do - when being an adult and facing a lot of personal childhood memories.
People get haunted by their early on suppressed memories.
I want to mention down below what you can do to
FORGIVE YOUR PAST
if this is you - having a hard time letting go.
Beforehand I want to talk about the early hardness of life after living in such a way,
What it`s lite to still being abused as a little child who deserve so much more.
A child still must go to school
A child still must function
A child is growing up trying to `fit in`
when they are already standing out
Not only today - but for decades grown ups has always awaited much
from their little ones.
We want to see them grow and LEARN.
In todays society we give them grades, we teach them what is
`right and wrong` so hiding abusive is more important than ever nowadays
Ever seen an angry Facebook comment?
Or a sad one?
Here you have people carrying hurt inside.
Hurt nobody can measure up - even if you might know their story.
Only the person itself... can be aware of how that story actually feels.
As a child grows up it may be hiding a lot
The child itself knows no other thing...
then `this abusive world`.
`As we are being teached
we are being taught`
This may seem as an easy disclaimer until you
see the value behind it.
What I mean by my words
`As we are being teached
we are being taught`
is that a child who grows up being abused
get`s abused at so many levels that the child
itself does not know.
Children does not know not having enough food
( or being punished - so they are not allowed to eat)
is not a common thing.
Children does not know that their own way of speaking
is seen as `less smart` rude, offensive and maybe
Children does not know that the bruises
they hide away is evidence.
Children does not know that the
makes them beat the other kids at school
( or maybe you did, so read on to the last section about
forgiving yourself and others)
A child does not know
- until it`s being taught something new.
After abuse the child may grow up see how other children get`s
treated by their parents. These children may end up blaming themselves
even more. There must be something very wrong with them?
Know that all that YOU have experienced up until this point of life
made you come into
THIS MOMENT OF LIFE.
As I see it it´s a deeper purpose for you who are reading this blog.
You as anyone else have a
GREAT VALUE to our world.
Not more and defiantly not any less.
You have the ability to change your life at any given moment.
IS ALWAYS THE RIGHT TIME.
I know that time is an illusion
( I can create amazing things
in a matter of minutes)
I’ve also seen other people do the same.
I cannot be the only one dream about what to write and what to create.
I can also hear what people think from time to time.
I hear you out there - suffering from earlier abuse.
Yes - YOU CAN CHANGE!
I believe in you - even if you’ve never met me.
WE ARE ALL CONNECTED
All what really matters is for you to
START BELIEVING IN YOURSELF
How to forgive yourself and others
You might already have heard about other methods
when it comes to forgive your past and with that - HEAL
yourself as you get an
understanding of that
the past is no longer here in your
- unless you choose to let it be.
I usually find a missing link
when I read about
different methods in how to forgive yourself
Here is why:
If you have resentment to past experiences
( meaning - you cannot totally let go
of the thought that YOU could have acted in a different way
to change the outcome of the situation you were in)
Methods of saying `I forgive you` just does not
do the trick for you then.
Try this instead
How to forgive yourself and others
to move on from past memories
I suggest you put off time once a week for this exercise.
It is okay to feel heavy afterwards.
Drink some water
as this will cleanse you body and energy field.
Step 1 Choose one childhood memory to work on
Step 2 Say to your childhood self that everything is okay
Step 3 Say to your childhood - self that he or she has every right to be angry about the situation. It is okay to cry.
Imagine telling you childhood - self that being angry is a choice
that will hurt him or her in the long run.
Tell this child joy comes from the inside.
Step 4 Remind your inner child about it`s values, the dreams, the
happiness and the positive sides you know this child carried once
deep inside ( and still do)
Your ability will surface after doing this exercise... so if your stuck not knowing what to do with your life - the meaning will soon come as you see clear again.
WITH NEW OPEN EYES
Make sure you tell your inner child about the strength and the courage the child you were had. This way - some day your inner child will have a knowledge that it could help other children in the same situation. This is almost like going back in time and preventing anything or anyone from harming you in the first place.
Now ask your inner child if it is ready to forgive you
If not, do this exercise until the child forgives you
Step 5 If you feel guided to tell your inner child something more
DO SO - this will be that
have always wanted to share with yourself
and ultimately been looking for all along.
This is the way to release your past and let it go completely.
Remember all lies within YOU!
I wish you a very blessed day or night when you read this blogpost of mine.
May you soon feel at peace.
YOU CAME HERE TO
FEEL AND BE LOVED
Love Britt I. Strand